There are other ways to defend yourself against him. It might not be with the intention to control him, but that's what essentially it is. What happened with Oz was never against him, but in an effort to protect the house. That ward was defense and it didn't need to alter anything about him.

[She was exhausted and exasperated. Where she might have been harsher and more angry, she just felt drained. So much of this was a time when she wasn't here, so she wasn't exactly in a position to criticize. But given that the last thing she remembered was dying, time hasn't passed the same for her as it did for Willow.

The whole argument and fight about Willow's use to magic hadn't passed long enough for Tara. So this was tossing her right back into an old argument that she had thought Willow overcame. All she could do was think back to the things she knew, rather than just take Willow's word for it. She claimed it wasn't the same, but how could Tara really know that?

It was also the reminder that she hadn't been there for it, so she wouldn't fully know. It wasn't said harshly, but the meaning still stung. Rather than get more huffy, Tara just crossed her arms and shook her head. Her eyes were lowered, distant and tired.]

Now he wants revenge for it?